Indian marriage is both a duty and part of life and religion.
Marriage (Vivaha) is seen as a sacred relationship that will help you to progress and learn over the many lifetimes you will spend together with your partner. .
Two souls who have their karma’s forever joined can resolve the obstacle in attaining nirvana together that involve parts of life such as wealth, sensuous pleasure and salvation.
Marriage is a duty and a dharma as part of your path to life in Hinduism.
Hinduism is the combined philosophies of a group of religions from India who believe in the cycle of rebirth and strive for release from it.
The way to unite with the universal is through spiritual knowledge and wisdom and meditation provides the concentration needed to see your true self and become one with God.
Choosing a particular God or Goddess to worship and one's devotion to them as part of their everyday life.
The creation of merit and karma by doing good deeds and the correct performance of all your duties will affect the amount of karma gained as you move from life to life.
Skihs life and marriage philosophies are similar, but like many other religions their beliefs are founded on one all encompassing God.
We can arrange from a anything from a Hindu officiate, Sikh temple official or Brahman monks so you can have the Indian wedding of your choice.
Below is a sample of Hindu wedding inclusions.
Pre Wedding Traditions
Exchange of Rings & Gifts (Misri – Sugar Ceremony)
Sangeet Party & Nav Graha Puja
Song and dances are provided by family and girls yet to be married. Blessings are asked of by the Gods.
Bathing & Grooming Ceremony (Pithi).
The bride and groom are bathed at their parents residences in water containing turmeric paste. Manicures and pedicures are given and the bride goes on to have her mehndi ceremony.
Henna Hand Art (Mehndi)
The beautiful & intricately designed henna artwork on her hands is symbolic of the bride’s transition into a seductive woman.
This is a special & fun time for the bridal party & family and may include them singing and dancing. The depth of color applied is proportionate to how much her husband will love her, so the more the better !
Prior this the Henna Wedding party, the groom’s female relatives may bring gifts to the bride.
The brides mother anoints the forehead of her daughter and the groom promises to forever protect his wife.
The ceremony begins in worship of Ganesh, the god who can remove all obstacles, along with the elements of earth, wind, fire, water, & sky are worshiped at a Hindu wedding.
These elements are symbolized by a pot of sacred water, flowers & coconut (Kalash) that represent the universe.
The bride and groom are seated (with the groom on her left) and invocations are sung (slokas) to Ganesh and Saraswati, followed by a prayer for harmony.
The Bride and the Groom give each other the garlands they have been holding and the groom will hold her left hand with his right.
In a binding gesture of their union, the the brides sari is tied to the grooms scarf.
The Sacred Fire (Havan)
Fire is a purifying element used in Hindu weddings. The promises you are about to make one another are witnessed by God, whose presence is symbolized by a small fire in a copper bowl at the middle of the ceremony area.
The God of fire (Agni) & the God of light & energy (the Sun) are asked to bless your marriage. More blessings (mantra’s) will be chanted everyone in the ceremony area, along with the brides family giving the couple offerings of grains and herbs (saamagri) for them to toss into the fire.
The bride and the groom also throw in ghee and ask the sun god to provide them with blessings. The offering is symbolic of the wealth, health, happiness & prosperity that must be given up in return for the blessings by the dharma of marriage in the after life.
Taking the brides right hand with his, the groom leads her around the fire 3 times (symbolic of dharma, karma & merit) and the bride leads their last walk around in a symbol of salvation.
Exchange of Vows / The 7 Steps (Saptapadi)
As the groom leads his bride around the fire, you both make 7 promises to each other.
As each vow is spoken, you will place your hand on each others hearts and your feet on a stone that is symbolic of the strength and steadfastness in your commitment to each other and the vows you are taking.
1. Provide for your family, nourish and respect what you have been given.
2. Live a healthy life for one another and grow in strength.
3. Be concerned for the other’s welfare, happiness and your friendship together throughout a life you will lead that is focused on Hinduism.
4. Always eat, drink and be with one another at special occasions.
5. Wish for children to love and for whom you will be responsible for.
6. Try to fit in with your spouse at any time and in any situation.
7. The 7 steps of marriage and promises you make to one another are concluded with the beautiful pronunciation of: ”I am the Words and You are the Melody – I am the Melody and You are the Words”
" With God let us take:
1. The first step to nourish each other
2. The second step to grow in strength
3. The third step to preserve our wealth
4. The fourth step to share our joys and sorrows
5. The fifth step to care for our children
6. The sixth step to be together forever
7. The seventh step to remain lifelong friends - The perfect halves to make the perfect whole".
Post Ceremony Rituals
The grooms parents and other elders give their blessings and gifts. The brides family offer her hand in marriage to the groom and ask for God’s blessings, then will wash your feet with milk and water.
The bride will wash her hands and the groom will bless his bride by applying vermilpon (Sidhoor) to the part of her hair and giving her a wedding necklace.
They will offer sweets to each other and pray for their prosperity and sweetness of their life together. Cotton thread is placed around their necks by the brides parents and tied together by the Pundit / Brahmin who will join your hands in acknowledgement of your union and recite prayers.
After this the dharma of marriage is fulfilled.
To end the ceremony and start the celebrations, the groom will step in a pot of honey, ghee, yogurt and seeds. The bride and groom will share a meal as an end to the fast they have usually undertaken prior to the ceremony and to express their love to one another.
They will pass a handful of salt back and forth between each other three times as a couple and then the bride will do this with the grooms family.
Salt, which mixes easily with all foods, is representative of the bride mixing well with her new family.
Blessed rose petals and rice are thrown by the guests
More Games & Celebrations
Traditional games can be played to entertain & lighten the mood
Coconut Car Check
If the couple are driving off to their reception, a coconut is placed under the wheel of their car to test it.
Please advise the ceremonies you would like held as part of your wedding, over how many days they will be held and also your selection of Indian Officiant, Skih or Hindu Temple Official or Brahmin Monks. Price shown is for standard ceremonies held over three days with an Indian Officiant.